On these kind of relationship Youngest + Youngest = DISASTER. They might have issues on who’s in charge, like the middle child may act more like a last born compared to the actual last born and vice versa. According to an article written by Kevin Leman for the CBN, “Somewhat paradoxically, this kind of marriage has a high probability for good communication-sharing feelings and rolling with the punches.” On the other hand, some researchers think that although the middle child is known to be compatible with anyone, having a relationship with the last born can be problematic. The combination of the middle-who is good at compromising and negotiating-and the social outgoing personality of the last born is the key to a good relationship. The middle plus the baby is a pretty good match. Their sensitive, compromising and accommodating nature makes it necessary for them to help each other develop the assertiveness and self-esteem that are needed for problem-solving. It is very natural for middle children to avoid confrontation, so in this kind of relationship the most common dilemma they would face is the matter of communicating with each other. The firstborn (always wanting to be in control) and the last born (always seeking comfort and wanting to be taken care of) is actually a win-win kind of relationship. They might not be able to pursue their own dreams and goals in life because of their accommodating nature. Middle children may be good with compromising, which is a good trait for a long-lasting relationships but they are so convenient to be with that being with a firstborn whose personality is usually controlling and dominating could be the cause of lack of self-improvement on the side of the middle child. This is the kind of relationship that could be seen as almost perfect but it’s not. This combination may fight over simple things like where to eat, what to eat, what movie to watch since they both want to be always in control but all relationships have this kind of phase-only this combination would feel it more intense since they are not used to compromising. But did you know that Bill and Hilary Clinton are both firstborns? And because of that they were a classic combination of control, self-driven and natural leaders. ![]() This kind of blend could be seen a little risky since both are going to fight for dominance. So now that I’ve discussed each type, let’s see how compatible they are with each other when it comes to relationships. Studies showed that these children are most likely to develop a much stronger and fair relationship with his/her parents. ![]() The stereotype for the only children is that they are spoiled and pampered with all the love and attention but due to lack of siblings, their personalities could somehow develop uniquely and it won’t be so difficult compared to those who compete with their brothers/sisters. If the last born came many years after their nearest sibling, though, their experience is more like that of an only child. Being the only baby left in the family, they become extra-dependent because it’s not only the parents who take care of them but also the older siblings. Studies have shown that last born children rate fairly similar to their middle-born counterparts but are also attributed more negative descriptors in keeping with the stereotype of them being spoiled. Although there are two types of middle child-the outgoing and the loner-both still share the common tendency to be good at compromising. They are often characterized as the rebel of the family, the risk takers, but perhaps this is a misinterpretation of their personalities because they are just characterized as more “open to experience” compared to their firstborn siblings, so they seem to be more rebellious. The middles and the later borns are the type “O” of the relationships. The aggressive ones are the natural leaders and perfectionists who want things done their way. The compliants are caregivers, crowd pleasers, team players, and reliable. There are two types of firstborns: the compliant and the aggressive. They tend to be dominant and controlling in relationships. Firstbornsīeing the first child of the family, firstborns commonly have all the attention directed to him/her. ![]() It’s like all of them fight for the attention they think they deserve. These traits derive from the unspoken competition between siblings as they fight for a family niche. Researchers agree that each level of the birth order hierarchy has unique traits. The most common descriptors for the birth order hierarchy are: firstborn, middle or later born, last born, and only child. Naturally, this will affect your romantic relationships as well. According to William Cane, author of the The Birth Order Book of Love, your birth order affects your personality, which is directly related to how you interact with other people.
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